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What you can measure

I can measure my son’s weight and his height. I can say things about length percentiles and head circumferences. What would it tell you, really? I cannot fill in on a chart the delicate pressure of his feet resting on … Continue reading

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Film: Elegy

“Beautiful women are invisible” says Dennis Hopper’s character in Elegy. He’s counseling Ben Kingsley, who plays David Kapesh, an ageing critic and lecturer who falls in love with a young Cuban student played by Penelope Cruz. It’s a conundrum about … Continue reading

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My mystifying Valentine

Valentine’s Day. I used to make trays of heart-shaped cookies with pink icing and hand them out to family, friends, strangers. Until once I left a lovingly wrapped an ribboned package in the postbox of someone I had a crush … Continue reading

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Message for a strong friend

Don’t do anything to make him love you. There is nothing to be done. Men seldom seem to figure this out intuitively, but love isn’t a noun, it’s a verb. Love is not something you find or lose. Love is … Continue reading

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The Guesthouse by Mowlana Jalaluddin Rumi This being human is a guest house Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they … Continue reading

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The successful psychopath

For most of us, literature and cinema have hijacked the term “psychopath” to evoke an image of a crazed sadistic monster, Hannibal Lecter frying up his victim, or Patrick Bateman in a frenzy of chainsaws and blades. The real psychopath … Continue reading

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A poem

Love After Love by Derek Walcott The time will come when, with elation you will greet yourself arriving at your own door, in your own mirror and each will smile at the other’s welcome, and say, sit here. Eat. You … Continue reading

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My favourite break-up line ever

Watched “Secretary” again last night. What a fine film. Worth seeing for the best break-up line of all time: PETER You’re my fiancee! LEE I don’t want you. Get out. I mean, poor Peter. But when you know, you know, … Continue reading

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Why I liked Venus

because Peter O’Toole gets the gleaming, soulful heart of a dirty, dirty old man because Jodie Whittaker’s smoky scowl is as convincing as her legs because two old men dancing and weeping made me want to dance and weep because … Continue reading

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So a close friend looked deeply into my eyes (hers blue into mine hazel) and asked: “Do you view all your friendships romantically?” If we hadn’t been laying back on the grass, too comfortable to move, I would’ve had to … Continue reading

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